Six months ago today my wife’s great-grandmother passed. I was chosen to give her eulogy. It was a great honor to have been the one to speak on a life well lived. Below is an excerpt from the eulogy. I think often in genealogy we get obsessed with dates and do not stop to realize that it is the dash between that makes the memories of a lifetime. It is that dash that passes by so fast.
It is the baby girl who was born to Earnest Ellsworth Outlaw and Martha Iola Smith on October 22, 1921 in Heavner, Oklahoma, and it is the woman that passed into eternity with our Lord Jesus Christ on September 22, 2013 from Bryant Arkansas.
When you see her birth and death listed there on your program, you will notice there is a dash between the two dates. It is the dash that means the most to our family. It was in the dash that she spent her life with us; whether you look at the time as the, 92 years, the 33,573 days, the 805,752 hours, or the 48,345,120 minutes of her life she shared with us. It was in that dash that all our memories were made and her values were passed along to us.
It was in that dash she sewed clothing, quilted, prepared meals, canned food, planted and tended to a garden all for family. It was in that dash that she tucked children and grandchildren into bed with the soothing voice of a song, a bedtime story, or a game of who can fall asleep first. It was in the dash when she gave hugs and kisses and exemplified the meaning of Unconditional Love.
It is what is done in that dash between the two dates that defines a life. It has defined her well beyond my words will.
While our flesh weeps for what we have lost, our souls rejoice in knowing she is singing with the angels, and that this is not good bye, but that we will one day meet again at that eastern gate.
1930 U.S. Federal Census
April 9th, 1930 for Bentley Townshiip in Conway County, Arkansas lists Pauline Outlaw, age 8, born in Oklahoma, with her father born in Arkansas and her mother born in North Carolina. She is listed as having attended school since September 1, 1929. She is enumerated with her parents, Earnest, age 50 and Ola, age 40. Also enumerated with her is her siblings Louie, age 17, born in Arkansas; Dulie, age 13, born in Arkansas; Claudie, age 11, born in Arkansas; and her twin brother Paul, age 8, born in Oklahoma. She is living next door to George Seay, age 22 and his wife Alice, age 23.
Source Citation: Year: 1930; Census Place: Bentley, Conway, Arkansas; Roll: 69; Page: 5A; EnumerationDistrict: 2; Image: 599.0; FHL microfilm: 2339804.